创伤桶进入你的生活,在你所知道的时候破坏世界,然后让你想知道如何把东西放在一起。在被抽烟的机会,朋友,职业,关系,家园,愿望和梦想中的残骸中,你站在损失和悲伤中。当然,这些情绪随着担心未来以及如何发现前进的最佳路径而导致焦虑。

如果你经历了创伤,那么你也经历了悲伤,可能是anxiety。这些经常齐头并进:例如,研究表明,约有40%的失去的人民在爱人死亡之后的第一年会在焦虑症中挣扎1,包括A.流产或怀孕损失。有时,与创伤有关的“死亡”是你自己的“死亡”。在一个瞬间,你的'在自我之前'似乎已经蒸发了,让你的“自我”悲伤犯下了你曾经是谁。

压扁悲伤和不确定性的焦虑开始于减少对损失的强烈内部反应。学习如何处理悲伤Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)recovery can be a crucial element in healing.

转换悲伤以哀悼

悲伤是您对损失的私人反应。也许你发现自己意外地哭泣,肚子疼,或抱着沉重的悲伤感。这些情感和体质经历的是,你的损失是多么有意义:你感觉越悲伤,你的重视越多。

虽然悲伤是被动和个人反应的损失,但哀悼是积极的,共同的反应。当我们哀悼我们表达我们的悲伤时,将其转移到我们个人经验的界限之外,进入社会领域。这种激活的共享使蠕动变换,然后允许其强度降低。

悲伤专家博士奥兰沃尔·博士,丧失和生命转型中心主任,通过悲伤的旅程:关于治疗的思考(Routledge),解释说“悲伤是我们的内部反应,但造成损失并帮助我们释放和解的光明是找到允许我们哀悼的安全人员和地点。哀悼与悲伤的区别是对损失的共同反应;悲伤公开了。“

据沃尔沃尔夫人说,有六种哀悼需求。以下这些步骤将帮助您慢慢转换悲伤,并按照自己的速度转换:

  1. 承认损失的现实:开始在过去时态看到丢失的对象很重要。改变你的语言,以便主动地指的是丢失的东西,好像现在现在存在它。
  2. 与痛苦交朋友:A key aspect of PTSD is avoidance. However, the mourning process requires you to acknowledge and interact with the pain.
  3. Shift the relationship:在悲伤的核心是你可能不期望的东西:爱。虽然您与过去转换了您的连接,但请采取措施尊重您所爱的内容,从您的生活中被删除。
  4. 发展新的自我认同:PTSD恢复要求您创建“新您”。探索并发现您现在处于损失的背景下。
  5. Search for meaning:我们通过分配意义对其发生的事情进行了解。确定这个损失对你意味着什么:找到一个健康,支持的意义,让您觉得您的接地和集中。搜索意义和目的对于1940年尤为重要幸福的幸存者。
  6. Have ongoing support:处理损失的感觉需要时间。具有持续的支持对于愈合至关重要,这可能发生在几周,月份甚至年数。

支持的重要性

Transforming post-traumatic grief, healing your soul, and identifying how to move forward while feeling safe and in control requires a positive, supportive, tender, and empathetic environment. There are two types of support during this period that play a large role in recovery:

First, you have to find "the therapeutic third." Wolfert explains that "in general in our culture, you can split people in thirds: A third of people are neutral, they don't hurt you or help you. A third of people, once you're around them, will make you feel worse. They try to take your grief away from you, buck you up, or tell you to carry on。三分之一的人抱着你,荣幸地哀悼哀悼。如果您发现后者第三部分,您将体验到您的生活中的遗失。“

Second is the support you give yourself. In each of the steps outlined above (and, indeed, throughout all of PTSD recovery) practicing self-compassion—kindness, support, and understanding—allows you to create an internal environment that respects the healing process and assists it by increasing your sense of calm.

前进和克服创伤

Trauma is defined as a "distressing or disturbing experience." Those who struggle with PTSD know that a simple definition barely scratches the surface of the pain and loss such an experience elicits. However, it's also true that we don't have to live in pain forever. While we can't go back to who we used to be and we can't reclaim the losses we go through, we can move forward towards becoming stronger, more creative, more resilient, and even more successful people who lead a purpose-filled life after trauma.

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1dryden-Edwards,Roxanne。(2014)。损失,悲伤和丧亲。medicinenet.com.。Retrieved from:http://www.medicinenet.com/loss_grief_and_bereavement/page2.htm

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Updated: February 01, 2017